Taiaka, first of all, thanks for your detailed and heartfelt response.
I do not want to pick you apart or attack you in any way, but I did just want to address a few specific points you made.
Taiaka Wrote:I left because, quite frankly, there is no room for so called 'interrigators' on this forum. There's no room for kittens either.
I disagree. I think there is room for both - both exist here, and can potentially get along just fine so long as they understand how the other set works.
It might come as no surprise to you that most of the forums I enjoy frequenting are "interrogator" based - one hockey on in particular is notorious for the "kittens" running away very quickly. It is also notorious for the interrogators getting very angry that people can't answer their questions and back up their opinions. In situations when the interrogators want answers from everyone, they get unhappy. In situations where the kittens want agreement from everyone, they get unhappy.
But here's the thing - most of the people from both sides who have been around a long time know who reacts what way, and the interrogators are capable of remaining calm when their questions aren't answered . . . while the kittens are capable of ignoring questions they don't want to answer.
There is room for both kinds of people, as well as the ones in the middle, so long as people realise that not everyone likes to interact in the same way that they do. That goes for both sides.
Quote:I went through the proper channels, made the staff aware of the problems I was facing, but little to nothing could be done. This isn't about admin control, its more about the lack of respect some people have towards other people for whatever reason.
Without getting into details - lack of respect is indeed a staff issue, because one of the rules of this site is that members must be respectful towards one another. In the specific instance you raised though - and I would like to emphasise that I am glad you raised it, because otherwise the staff don't know there is a problem - it was discussed at some length and the conclusion we came to was that no rules had been broken.
It wasn't that nothing could be done - it was that on balance the feeling was that, at that time, no rules had been broken and so there was no need to do anything.
Quote:No one here can fix, explain, or substanciate another's claims; not with all the interigation in the world.
That is debateable - however I do believe that through questioning, inconsistencies in claims and beliefs can be found and as a result the believer can have the opportunity to re-evaluate how everything they believe fits together.
Quote:It gets met with anger and the haughty air of 'I have a right to ask whatever I want, however I want to ask it, and if the answer is not to my satisfaction, you're wrong.'
I genuinely believe that everyone on this forum has the right to say "I disagree and think you are wrong", so long as they can do it in a manner which is both polite and respectful. I also believe that every member has the right to say "Good for you, but I will ignore you from now on" if they don't want to deal with that kind of conflicting opinion.
It's the internet; anyone can back off at any time they want to. The second the stress of reading and responding to a post is greater than the enjoyment, that's the time to just not read and respond.
Quote:Look at that new girl that was burned within 2 days of signing up and was forced to leave.
Who was this? Also, no-one can be "forced to leave" unless they get banned. They can however decide that this forum is not the right place for them; they can also choose to ignore posts by certain users and simply not read what they write.
I do not believe that for this to be a successful and useful place everyone must get along with everyone at all times. In fact I think that kind of universal "acceptance" would be entirely counterproductive. It is not, in my opinion, a bad thing if people disagree with each other, or even dislike each other. It is the internet - it is simplicity itself to ignore those voices which it makes you uncomfortable to listen to.
I appreciate that this topic is more for members than staff to contribute to, so that we can gauge the general feeling; however I felt there were a few specific points that I wanted to address.