what others think you are

As opposed the that frequently asked question: what am i?)

I'm mainly curious about your experience with other people (be they online or in person) telling you what your kinship is.
Things like, did it end up helping you out or messing you up?
Does it still affect what you think you are now or has it been completely shot down?
Also, do you know why they made this suggestion and do you think it had anything to do with motives that possibly weren't in your best interest?

The latter i had the biggest experience with. most otherkin i mean in person or people that have some spiritual awareness tell me straight up there is at least something draconic about me. Some don' get a feel for anything and then there was a few who interpret something different all together.

They were a couple and i know I've spoken of the male half before. He kept insisting that the only reason i could possibly feel like i was a dragon was because the original women whose soul mine had been apart of had an affinity for dragons and wolves. How convenient that wolves were included since his girlfriend gave off a wolf therian vibe but apparently was also just another shard of this original woman's soul.

It had to be of the most frustrating otherkin moments I've had to deal with (excluding the awakening). Especially when his motives behind it were clearly not for my best interest but his. To be told something that feel so wrong about myself by people i once trusted.
actually, i never really trusted him. but i did trust his girlfriend and she went right along with him.

I've heard of plenty of other times when people had been told something about themselves by another and i guess I'm curious about the overall outcome of that experience. Mine didn't help me grow as a person in anyway or give me new insight or delusions (mainly cause i didn't believe it).
But for those who trusted the input, did it help or hinder in the end? and what made the person giving their input reliable?

I've never had someone tell me what I am, but I do have a friend who had an amusing reaction to me telling her about my kinship. She's a psi vampire and is very good at sensing the energy of others down to "types". So after I told her she just goes "so *that's* what you are! You're like a freaking ball of energy".

And chai can read minds too! I was just thinking about starting a topic like this but I couldn't get the proper words, so thank you for starting it for me! <!-- s --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_razz.gif" alt=":P" title="Razz" /><!-- s -->

chaitea Wrote:Things like, did it end up helping you out or messing you up?
Does it still affect what you think you are now or has it been completely shot down?
Also, do you know why they made this suggestion and do you think it had anything to do with motives that possibly weren't in your best interest?

When I was in High School, I asked a few friends what animal they could see me as and why. It was just something I asked people one day, no rhyme or reason behind it. And I got several very different answers: cat because I'm graceful, canary because I love to sing and wolf because I'm loyal to my friends and willing to stand by them at all costs. Keep in mind that none of those animals were my favorite at the time; I believe my favorite animal was a dolphin at this point in my life so they weren't just picking my favorite animal to placate me. I don't think I showed any outward signs of being a therian to anyone back then either.

I would love someone I don't know very well to tell me the animal I most remind them of, just to see if it matches. But all my friends now know of my love of wolves so they would probably automatically name that animal since they know it's my favorite.

And since I've never met any therians or Otherkin in real life, I have no idea if my energy reads as something "other" or not. I've always been curious if it does or not. I would love to find out, just as another thing that would help me feel validated in my beliefs, but as of yet I've never met another therian/Otherkin who didn't know what I was already.

I've never really requested in any seriousness of anyone to tell me what they think I am as a means of figuring out what I am.
However, I've offered myself up for over-internet readings partially because I want to see if they're capable of reading anything accurately at all and/or being honest about what they do.
I have never been read "right".

I have been told I am the following by other people:
A Judeo-Christian Angel.
"A demon" (No further explanation what so ever so he could just as easily have said "A thing")
A wolf
A dragon
etc.. etc.. etc..

I've been told I'm "ancient", "wize", "powerful" etc.. etc.. etc..
I've only once been told my sheilds were good, when I was told that I was like a brick wall to read, which might have been the only close-to-accurate thing I ever got told. The rest of the time there have been "hmmms" and words of warning about how "open" I am to attack and how they can help me, teach me, tell me how to be safe..

All in all, it's left me with a prejudice against people attempting to read me from afar at all. Claims of any ability to are met with mistrust from me that is.

In person, most people don't know "what" I am other than "cat-like". Kin or non-kin alike have used that to describe me on occation.

Quote:I've been told I'm "ancient", "wize", "powerful" etc.. etc.. etc..

*prostrates before the mighty old one*
Reading the list you put up, it's hard to imagine you as any of those, even without knowing what your kintype is.
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I've never been told what my kintype was either, but even before all this family and friends pinned a wolf or fox label on me. They've said things like I "look like a fox" (not in the context of fox=sexy) or I "act like one" since I was a kid, and they associated me with wolves on account of my wolf poster and me being a dog person. Yet only one friend actually knows about therianthropy/otherkin.

If I listened to what everyone had to say I would think I was a faerie, (or a christmas elf.) I think it's just how I look and my preferance for certain clothes, I'm petite, cute, and a little mischevious. I don't blame them, but I've never really believed them, at least they got the wings right.

I've never received any comments in this regard, and I've never expected any. After all, I'm such an introvert that I get more than enough opinions from me, myself, and I.

chaitea Wrote:I'm mainly curious about your experience with other people (be they online or in person) telling you what your kinship is.
Things like, did it end up helping you out or messing you up?
Does it still affect what you think you are now or has it been completely shot down?
Also, do you know why they made this suggestion and do you think it had anything to do with motives that possibly weren't in your best interest?

Case 1: Back before we became aware of our system, one of our best friends guessed that Val was leanan sidhe. He was very right about the qualities that led him to make that guess (noble Fae vibe, compelling communicator driving others' artistic pursuits and feeding off the results, self-interested) but we obviously decided the specific 'kintype was off. Val had gotten the "sidhe" part into her head on her own before he said this and our elves as a group strongly resisted the idea that we could be elves so I don't think we would have come to the conclusion any sooner if we hadn't heard this. He definitely has his own, romanticized view of us; I wouldn't say he had his own interests before ours, but he is definitely biased.

Case 2: An online friend (Tamuril, for those who know her) found our aura painfully bright when she first met us in person, not initially knowing who out of the people she expected to meet that day we were, and guessed that we were Fae of some kind. Part or all of that may have been one of our shields. We were pretty secure in our identities by then so we just thought it amusing. We assume she had our best interests at heart but didn't stop to think too critically about biases as we didn't take it as a serious data point.

Case 3: Our aesthetician sees us as having catlike qualities. She also knows we have cats, and is paid to make us feel better as well as look better. We do believe that we have personality traits in common with our cats but chalk it up to both reinforcement and the fact that part of our choice to adopt them was based on their mother's agreeable personality, which has had an obvious influence on theirs.

-S'aryn

Before Iago was aware of Puck and I, he had been told that he must be vampiric and Otherkin by two complete strangers met at a Farmer's Market (about seven months apart) and one semi-close friend.
No one has suggested a kintype for any of us ever before, though that same semi-close friend told Iago that he could not be a changeling or angel. He agreed.

I have always been afraid of the possibility that someone might actually perceive something noteworthy that I did not wish to share and, thus, have avoided asking questions of that nature.

I have been told on numerous occasions that people feel a "fae" energy coming off of me. Which I find is incredibly vague not to mention inaccurate. I hate it when other people try to read me mostly because I know it's not very possible for anything to come out properly - on of my dearest friends put up a physical and metaphysical shield on me a few years ago and does maintenance every now and again.

In the past week I've been called a succubus by about 9 or 10 people (most of whom I've never met before in my life...) which leaves me wondering, but at the same time I shun the idea... and blush at it. I'm not the least bit "lustful" at all... yes, I have a child, but with a man I was seeing for 5 years and am currently divorcing.

I've never felt like either of these things, but at the moment I'm very confused and lost about what I am. What's more frustrating is I haven't been able to remember the name of my people so I'm beginning to feel them slip away from me. It's almost like I'm losing myself and at the same time I have to fight it because of my responsibilities in this life.

I don't think being told that I am something I'm not has effected me, but I do believe that thinking that I might be something I'm not has changed something inside me. I'm wondering if there might be two sides of me and one is just dormant most of the time... is that even possible? Gah, I never know how long to make these posts... sorry if this one is too long!