Sorry about writing so much here...I do have something which I hope someone can help with. Obviously, though, it has to do with magic, so I'm not entirely certain the cause-effect relationship which I suspect the situation might have is valid.
To the point, I am (or was) uncertain whether either I or one of my familiar spirits was making someone sick. I wouldn't have been concerned except for the fact that I hate this person, and don't want them tied to me after death. I did realize, though, just before I was about to post this -- that this guy probably has collected a lot of ill will over the years...so it isn't as though what's going on with him, if it is magical, has of necessity anything to do with me.
If you don't want to read the elaboration on this, there's a question at the end of the post. <!-- s

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I have a family member who has taken in a very, very old man. As he ages, his health declines. Pretty much nobody likes him (seemingly including said family member), but he's continually invited to family functions (likely out of pity), where he proceeds to be gross in multiple senses of the term, make people uncomfortable, and attempt to draw attention to himself.
I'm cutting out a large swath of details here as to how he is gross and why I, in particular, dislike him.
Anyhow, this family member -- cannot, apparently, say "no," to this person. And she also, apparently, doesn't care that he makes other family members uncomfortable. She now knows the latter, and I know she knows this; this is after years of her being willfully ignorant.
It's to the point where it's like the only way we're going to be rid of this person is if he dies. Which brings me to the point that his health is deteriorating to the extent that I now consider him a public health hazard.
The problem as it stands right now is that this guy has some really nasty health problems going on, and I'm not sure anyone actually knows what they are, which to me is sounding like a curse. Or, you know, a really weak immune system that's allowing unknown diseases to crop up. Of course, it's not like I'm the only person who might have had the will or ability to curse him, either -- he's been a butt for (a lot) longer than I've been alive.
The question that was initially in my mind was whether my extreme distaste for him was contributing in a more than mundane way to his decline...but maybe I got that partially right: "more than mundane" is happening, "connection with my loathing" is not.
I have not made the effort to cast any spells or curses in his direction. I am not consciously, intentionally, throwing out energy lashes in his direction, though I have no good thoughts towards him. I'm trying as best I can to erase him from the "things that matter" portion of my consciousness when I have to be around him (which is the only way I can feel safe, which in turn is the only way I can have my extended family back).
I know that Snake is helping me with feelings of security when I have to be around him (such as when he comes to my house)...I just don't know if some other incorporeal spirit who sympathizes with my situation is attacking him on their own. Or, on the other hand, if a different incorporeal spirit from outside my circle is attacking him, and I'm just a witness.
I haven't entirely cast off the belief in karma that I obtained from Buddhism (though I have consciously cast off a lot else)...my initial concern was just that he would mess with me after he was dead, but there's the fact also that he's likely made a lot of enemies.
Thinking on this further, I'm not sure I have anything to really be concerned about, because even after this guy dies, even if he wants to be, he may not be a direct threat, so far as my own health and safety is concerned.
Question:
1) Is there a way to get this guy to stay away without direct confrontation (before or after death)?