are girls weird or guys uncomprehending?
imagine this situation: a nice, honest, gentle man is interested in a girl. he does everything for her - he invites her over for dinner and a dvd evening, he remembers her birthday and all the other things she told him, he really tries to be the best possible man for her - but in the end, she tells him that she really likes him as a friend, no more.
in the end, the girl will fall in love with some guy who doesn't seem to notice her, or care for her much, or who everyone else considers inappropriate. later on, she will whine about her relationship, about her bad guy (ex), and how she "only wants someone who is nice" - only to reject said nice guy again, preferably after having him care for her broken heart.
most guys will now say: "what a bitch! he's perfect, why doesn't she jump at the nice guy?!"
most girls will say: "i know this feeling" and/or "he just wasn't exciting enough".
as always, i'm trying to see it from the neutral point of view. despite being in this kind of situation myself.
a man can't do it right. you care for a girl, you do everything for her, she will say you're too nice and reject you. but. if you forget her birthday, come late for a date, prefer seeing the soccer match instead of her,... she'll complain what an ass you are.
on the other hand: should a girl be forced to be with someone because everyone else thinks he is perfect for her? should she not trust her feelings, her intuition, and, last but not least, her heart? relationships that start off half-heartedly rarely fix themselves. she actually spares the nice guy the pain of breaking up early.
what do you all think? have you experienced such a situation? how do/did you deal with it? any explanations, other than "girls are weird" or "men just don't grasp it"?
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