"Validation" from funny sources . . .
I think most multiples have questioned at one time or another whether their headmates are genuinely discreet individuals who have an existence apart from the core person, or are in some way constructs, splits, or simply different aspects of our personalities.
For some reason it seems important to me that my own other half is in fact a "real" person, as opposed to a persona that I can switch into, a coping strategy, or some kind of delusion. This is far more important to me than any other aspect of my being otherkin; the rest can go shove itself for all I care, but that he is "real" is of importance to me.
Anyway, I'm in the middle of a somewhat complicated and difficult set of relationship issues right now. This has got me examining a good amount of how my own head works, where my own quirks and difficulties come from. I have a good number of, shall we say, Issues (with a capital I of my own) of the kind that in normal people would step from various kinds of problematic family backgrounds.
What's interesting to me though, is both based on a trawl through Wikipedia and based on my own logic, those Issues seem totally unconnected to anything in my RL, physical family. Paste my Other Half into the equation though, ways I have interacted with him and his lot, ways we think about each other, the manner in which we came to be linked . . . and, well, those Issues of mine all make a lot more sense. Certain needs and behavious I have make absolutely perfect sense in the context of this other person I have with me and that I grew up with him.
It's a strange sensation - it doesn't make any of those Issues go away and it certainly doesn't make them easier to deal with . . . quite the opposite in fact. It does, however, on some level validate to me that he is a "real" presence and not just imagination. It feels, in a way, pleasant.
Ubi Dubium, Ibi Libertas
Quote:"I have suffered from being misunderstood, but I would have suffered a hell of a lot more if I had been understood."