Re: This is something that's been really bugging me....
Hey, sorry for the lateness of the reply - I've been thinking for a little while about what to say.
I've been in the same position, of my other half just "vanishing". The sensation is deeply uncomfortable - a mix of losing a very close friend, and of losing part of myself. And losing part of yourself means you also lose some insight as to how to deal with things, which makes it even more difficult.
Unfortunately, I don't think I have any advice other than try to sit it out and weather the storm. Certainly I can't remember anything I was ever able to do to trigger my other half coming back/waking up. What I can say is that in your case, as in mine, it seems that the system isn't totally gone - you have contact, just a lot less than normal. So try to remember that just because it's very tough *now*, doesn't mean it will be very tough *tomorrow*. And the next time you do have contact, perhaps try to raise the issue - at the very least, let the rest of your system know how uncomfortable/frightening it is to be left alone, let them know you are always thinking about them, and generally make sure they're aware of the situation. It is of course entirely possible - likely, even - that they are conscious but disconnected from you, and every bit as uncomfortable as you are. In which case I'm sure it will help them to know that you're still thinking about them, even when cut off.
Ubi Dubium, Ibi Libertas
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