Selana Wrote:Since I've returned online, I have been registering at different OK forums. Some of these forums appear to welcome critical discussion, while others have questionable posts that go unquestioned (trying to put things diplomatically here). When I was online before this was also the situation, so it was common to find forums where users would post a tick list for a kin type (you are an elf if you meet these ten criteria) and similarly dubious things. Back then, I could barely be bothered to post in communities where such behaviour was rampant (and sometimes encourgaed). I just stuck to my own forum.
The difference between "then" and "now" is fairly big, IMO - and it's not just a case of "the older I get, the better I was."
Back in the good old days, there were a handful of forums that were properly serious - they all had differnet atmospheres and different dominant personalities, but (off the top of my head) Other Haven, Hidden Lair, and FAEBorn all had reasonably sensible, critical discussion. There were also a number of active Yahoo lists of a similar level.
Now, the Yahoo lists are dead and the only remotely "serious" general kin boards I know of are here and TFW. (I'm sure people will feel there are others - by my own criteria, I haven't seen any.) The sensible, non-fluff discussion has been cut down to a much smaller number of locales and with a much smaller number of people - generally the sane, talkative otherkin are on all the boards anyway.
There is, however, a preponderance of pure fluff idiocy boards. There always has been - but the lack of good, serious boards means the idiotkin have a relatively louder voice.
Quote:Now, however, I feel more of a need to speak up and challenge these sorts of posts, because I think its damaging for newly awakening kin.
What I am wondering is: do you feel a responsibility to join and speak up in these communities and, if so, why?
Very much so, and for the reason you state: fluff bullshit is IMO seriously damaging to newly awakening kin. (For a similar reason I was never a fan of the NewKin and KinFrontiers lists - I think it's better for the newbies to be in with the grown ups.) Unfortunately, it takes a huge amount of energy to provide a voice of sanity that's loud enough for the impressionable to hear . . . especially when there are plenty of (sometimes unknowing) predators ready to fuck with the heads of the new. So I don't put myself above the parapet nearly as much as I should.
Selcar Wrote:Nope. Too tired at yelling at brick walls to bother anymore.
That's interesting, because if, a few years ago, someone hadn't made a point of yelling at brick walls on the forum that was at the time the undisputed capital of otherkin stupidity - would you still be hanging out on MSNOK?
Not a criticism at all - just an observation.