Littlechris Wrote:1. How do you deal with shifting during a sexual experience? What about those with different genders in their system?
This is a bit more contentious than the ups and downs of the toilet seat, and it's not just gender, it's also orientation. It's part of why we now require a unanimous vote of all who can be wakened before any
of us can enter into a relationship: Any of us could wake up during sex and we'd rather not have any more surprise (or coerced) unpleasantness.
Fortunately, our unintentional switches are usually triggered by noticing something that the new frontrunner considers important, but unfortunately this can include things that have nothing to do with sex: particular songs, things that trigger past-life memories, and so forth. So, although I'm sure it'll cause us internal grief at some point, we just don't get into the situation unless everyone can stand the thought of accidentally switching in on sex with that person. We're also likely to negotiate with future partners beforehand so that we aren't "surprised" with an activity that would be okay for some of us but not others.
Littlechris Wrote:2. How do you deal with relationships? Do you allow each personality/person to have individual partners, either romantically or sexually? Does each person have their own set of friends?
We prefer to have several of us in a relationship with the same person, so that no one is time-cheated (either because the one in the relationship is largely absent for a while or because the one in the relationship monopolizes frontrunning). That is, however, only a preference and not a deal-breaker.
Most of us are either polyamorous or asexual. The former makes things much easier.
We generally have a consensus about whether we like people or not, so we have the same friends and at least can be friends with others' significant others. And there's a strong "me too" sentiment when it comes to friendship, at least.
Littlechris Wrote:3. If you're married, how does multiplicity effect your spouse?
We're not and don't plan to be. Having a relationship with many of us, as opposed to one, would make it more likely that we'll end up in a nonmarried primary relationship with that person. (A "primary" in polyamorous terms is someone to whom one has the same level of commitment and connection as a spouse; marriage may or may not be part of it, and a person can have more than one primary.) Even if we don't deliberately give that sort of person priority over someone who only has a relationship with one or few, the more important one is to more of us, the more time we end up investing in that relationship.