Re: Sexuality
Bisexual. I've had boyfriends and girlfriends, and all the fun stuff that goes along with that, if you get what I'm saying.
I'm attracted to people, however, not gender. I have a friend who is transgendered, and there is an attraction there for me -- but it wouldn't matter, really, what gender he identified as. (Biologically female, in case you were wondering.) I am attracted to whomever I'm attracted to, and to try to put limits on that based on gender or identification or whatever would be futile, at least for me. I do know that there are straight people who simply cannot be attracted to their own gender, and that there are gays and lesbians who cannot be attracted to the opposite gender. But for me, it's the person that matters the most.
Hence, the reason why I get bothered by the stance that bisexuality or homosexuality or whatever is a choice. To me, that's like saying that skin color is a choice -- especially because more and more studies are finding biological causes for sexual orientation. In fact, I take personal offense to that stance, as I had no control over my bisexuality. I was raised Baptist, where anything other than "straight" was an "abomination" -- and it didn't help that I was going to a school in the same vein -- so when I finally realized I was something other than the "norm" I was raised with, I cried and begged God to change me. Finally I accepted it, but it was very hard; so I've also discovered that I simply cannot be very good friends with someone who holds the stance that it's a "choice", as that stance very deeply offends me.
Anyway, off my soapbox now.
~ Ashaiel
Magnificat anima mea Dominum!
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