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Personality chameleonism?
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Personality chameleonism?
Our collective has a tendency towards being a personality chamaeleon. We absorb behavior patterns, habits, and personality traits from other people. I think this is crossover from Fayanora and her species' tendency towards a natural multiplicity that allowed them to telepathically absorb the entire personality and memories of wise and worthy members of their society. We recall that they often would pass an individual down through 100 generations or more (a long time for a race that, if you aren't killed by something nasty in the environment, has a lifespan of up to 250 years and doesn't age between the ages of 10 {their equivalent of 20*} and about 220).

I don't have telepathy (though I *am* empathic), so this skill is a bit dull comared to that of the Ah'Koi Bahnis, but the skill is fairly strong for humans. Though my roommate has it stronger than I. Still, I know my friend Brooke well enough by now that I could probably make a passable copy of her in my mind. I'm resisting that temptation for now, though; there are enough people in this body already. (Either 9 or "an infinite number" depending on whether or not you count Shao-Kehn's Aspects.) Still, even resisting that temptation, I find myself acting, even thinking, like Brooke, and adopting her mannerisms even when she's not around. And I think Alex has some of Dad's less-than-wonderful traits (with interest!). I think if I could get over my shyness, I could be a great actor, because I'd be Becoming the character! It helps that (P)I am a polymorph.

Anyone else here a personality chamaeleon?

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* = They mature twice as fast as humans until age 10, which is their 20.

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2009-07-21 12:53
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Re: Personality chameleonism?
It's actually also completely normal for humans to do what you are describing. It's part of... I dunno.. social bonding or something. It's part of what leads to a particular "culture". I use several mannerisms that I got from my friends all the time, and they've picked up traits from me. Same thing at work. There are several phrases I find myself using that I picked up because one of my coworkers says them all the time.
2009-07-21 16:15
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Sounds like you're a high self-monitor, which means you pick up external clues to help you determine behavior. High self-monitors tend to have very fluid personalities and, like Shiari said, we all pick up traits from our friends. It's one of the major tools we use to form our self-identity

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2009-07-21 18:37
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Amourosa Wrote:Sounds like you're a high self-monitor, which means you pick up external clues to help you determine behavior. High self-monitors tend to have very fluid personalities and, like Shiari said, we all pick up traits from our friends. It's one of the major tools we use to form our self-identity

High self-monitor?

Dude, if I've heard that term before, I've forgotten it.

I'm jacking that term. I've needed a word for that for a while now. It's exactly what I do. XD

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simim23 Wrote:
Amourosa Wrote:Sounds like you're a high self-monitor, which means you pick up external clues to help you determine behavior. High self-monitors tend to have very fluid personalities and, like Shiari said, we all pick up traits from our friends. It's one of the major tools we use to form our self-identity

High self-monitor?

Dude, if I've heard that term before, I've forgotten it.

I'm jacking that term. I've needed a word for that for a while now. It's exactly what I do. XD
I was going to say the same thing. XD

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2009-07-22 22:21
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Re: Personality chameleonism?
That describes me almost perfectly as well. The more I'm around someone the more likely I am to absorb facets of their personality like commonly used sayings, mannerisms, and even accents.

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2009-07-24 19:52
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I’m a bit of a loner and yeah...i'm terminally shy <!-- sSmile --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt=":)" title="Smile" /><!-- sSmile --> , I find being around a lot of people uncomfortable , I’m very particular about who I choose as friends , and even then I have to spend a lot of time by myself , a certain distance away from people …If I’m around them too much I either get very tiered or very hyper .

But I have noticed I can fit in with almost any kind of group , I’m not empathic , but I quickly adapt mannerism and methods of speech very quickly , I can sort of link with people , get on the same wavelength so to speak , problem is I also have quite strong reactions to people as well …if a person isn’t , I suppose you’d say a nice person , I have a strong negative feeling towards them , like I need to be out of their sphere of influence .

But most of the time I adapt to those around me .
2009-07-26 23:19
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Shiari Wrote:It's actually also completely normal for humans to do what you are describing. It's part of... I dunno.. social bonding or something. It's part of what leads to a particular "culture". I use several mannerisms that I got from my friends all the time, and they've picked up traits from me. Same thing at work. There are several phrases I find myself using that I picked up because one of my coworkers says them all the time.

Yeah, I know regular people do it too, I'm just saying that the scale of it is so much more intense in us. We could easily create a new member of the collective from the stuff we've absorbed from our friend Brooke if we let ourselves do so. If we ever have to part from her, we might just.

-Pi

Amourosa Wrote:Sounds like you're a high self-monitor, which means you pick up external clues to help you determine behavior. High self-monitors tend to have very fluid personalities and, like Shiari said, we all pick up traits from our friends. It's one of the major tools we use to form our self-identity

Makes sense, since I have difficulty figuring other people out, and have for a long time. I can sense emotions pretty well, but I rarely understand other people's motives and thought processes. Look up the term "culture shock." I've been living with that basically since I was born. And social rules are still difficult. I am not a social person, not because of any dislike of other people, but because I can't figure them out. That, and they drain me emotionally and mentally. Some mentalities, like the mindset needed to fill out paperwork, drain me extra-fast. Filling out paperwork is, for me, like running a marthon (something else I couldn't do well).

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Ich bin ein Diener des Lebens.

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2009-07-27 6:07
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Re: Personality chameleonism?
Svaenohr, I merged your posts. Please use the edit function next time to put replies in the same post instead of just posting after yourself. Thanks <!-- sSmile --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt=":)" title="Smile" /><!-- sSmile -->

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