Motley Wrote:I think one main difference with gender dysphoria and species dysphoria is that there really is nothing you can do about the latter except just get over it. In this lifetime, I'm never going to grow feathers. I'm never going to fly by my own power. There simply is no way to do anything about it. A lot of kin, myself when younger also, spend a lot of time fantasizing about being this other thing, or about the 'veil' falling, or physical shifting, but in the end it just continues not to happen. Either you adapt or you don't, but if you don't the consequences are serious. The only real solution is to learn to love who you are now.
I thought about that as well, but there are many transsexuals who feel like they're in the same boat- and they never get used to it. But I think it's that you're surrounded by the opposite sex. I've never met a Ri'en- they don't exist in this world. If you're a domestic creature, that's a bit more difficult- if you own a cat and are a cat, then you'll see it every day. But that's still different than 50% of the population you come in contact with having that body. <!-- s

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Quote:You can go through all the procedures, but if you weren't blessed with the right kind of genetics, it still might not give you the results you want.
The results I want is a flat chest and figure that I've gotten through a month of herbal supplements, so that's really not a concern for me. But that is a point for others- moreso transwomen than men, it seems.
Archer Wrote:RDrac Wrote:I'm transgendered, and as my dysphoria is near crippling, feeling wrong in your body is a big deal for me.
Can you explain why it's so painful for you? I have a hard time getting my head around this concept.
I don't know how to explain it.
A transwoman said that htere are 3 types of dysphoria- social, physical,a nd another that I've forgotten, probably because I didn't understand it. Social is that you can't deal with being socially treated like the wrong gender (in her case, she'd rather deal with a male body than being treated as a boy), physical is that the
body is painful to deal with.
I could be treated as either for my entire life, but as long as the body is what I'm comfortable with I'll be happy. I'll be much happier if I can get my gender marker changed to 'X', but that's a story for another day. Dysphoria can be crippling- and no amount of therapy or medication will fix it. You can try your entire life to tell yourself that you can be happy in that body, and it won't work. If it did- why on earth are there 50+ year old women coming out to their poor wives about who they really are? Because there's no way to deal with it. There's no amount of denial or coping mechanisms. The body is wrong- and the only way to fix it is to either change the social situation or your body- or both, in most cases.
Social dysphoria is probably easier to deal with. Most transpeople I've heard from, when they've accepted themselves and don't try to repress it, are socially accepted as the opposite gender. People seeing a MtF as being "really" a boy, but they're still considered "one of the girls", for example. When they try to socialize as the wrong one, then it gets crippling, but if you can socialize like that- the body isn't as big a deal.
That you're a non-physical entity probably makes it harder to understand, since I imagne the only sense of body being wrong is the fact that you
have a physical body.