I've been meaning to write something on this topic for a long time.
This isn't a personal message to anyone in particular.
No offence is meant and I'm doing my very best to write this thing without emotional input, so please don't add any to the following as you read.
There are countless of kin out there that make references to things being out of their control. To them being trapped and thus disheartened or worse. We've all seen the references to those that can not be who they want to be for various reasons. Some reasons are understandable, but some I just can not take seriously.
There are also different kinds of imprisonment and fear. From the common phenomenon of simply missing something that one used to be able to do, to the sensation that one is entirely imprisoned by one's own form. From the fear of being looked at funny, to the fear of one's basic human rights being stripped away.
I'm going to go through as much as I can in this little essay post.
First up, lets cover the prison of flesh.
Yes, once upon a time, you were something else. But right now, you are human.
The five senses, hard-wired into your system, are human. Your sense of taste, touch, smell, sight and hearing, are all human and to top it all off, the information you take in via those systems are processed through your human brain. You may not like it, but the reason that you can come onto a forum and have an emotional response to a piece of text that you read on a screen is that you are human. The reason you can enjoy good tasting food, and the reason you can dance to the music you like, right now, is that you're human. Yes, there might be food and song and dance where you would be if you weren't here, but you are here now. Why refuse to enjoy what you can?
Why refuse to accept the experience?
Why refuse to learn?
Are you so attached to the idea of what you think you should be that you're incapable of accepting what you are?
There are so many things we all can miss but it's really quite saddening to see an otherwise rational individual miss something that which he/she/it doesn't have to the point where he/she/it is utterly blinded to what he/she/it does have. The person's identity becoming the missing, the aching, the trapped. Not what they think they should be, but the fact that they think they should.
Yes, it's hard. It can be horribly difficult to learn that you are, deep down, something that is so different from a human being that it'd impossible to put it into words and yet be understood. But it doesn't change the fact that before one learned that little detail, one's experiences and lessons learned were valuable, still are, and they are human.
In fact, as I pointed out to start with, all our experiences and lessons learned, as we are today, are human.
The fact that we are something more than just the flesh, doesn't make us any less human. The us-and-them mentality, even if it's merely on an internal level, isn't helpful to anyone.
There are other ways to be imprisoned:
Many kin still live with their families and feel they can't come out of the kin-closet for the sake of their parents. This I can understand, I may not always agree with it, but I do understand. Some people just can't handle the idea of their own child being his/her/it's own person. The little one is to grow up and fit the pre-designed mold that mothers and fathers have carved out inside their heads. It could be something as simple as which sport the child plays, it often includes religion, it even sometimes includes the haircolour of the grandchildren that the offspring is expected to provide. This makes parents a difficult sort to confront with the idea that you don't fit their mold, that you couldn't ever fit any mold they could form for you as you simply are something else. And this doesn't have to be because you are otherkin either.
Still, it seems strange to see a fully grown person, who's moved out of their parent's house, talk about the same phenomenon. That they can not be themselves, because the family might find out. Now I know it's hard to deal with, but unless you're sharing the same roof, I don't see how being yourself, at home and in life, will make your people not like you anymore in such a way that can hurt you. If they don't know you, as you are, then how can they like you to begin with? Is it really better to pretend?
And even more bizarre, to me at least, are those that claim they can not be themselves because they'd end up being beaten up. That if they were openly otherkin that their rights and freedoms would be violated.
Now, as I've stated before, we are all in possession of a human body, otherwise we could not be here, having this conversation. Being in these human bodies guarantees us the same rights and privileges that are guaranteed to any other entity inhabiting a human body. If you were mistreated/assaulted/discriminated against because of your beliefs then you'd have the same right to sue the responsible parties as any other person who was mistreated/assaulted/discriminated against, because of their beliefs, even if yours aren't the most commonly know ones. If you were attacked for what you wear in public you have a right to sue the person who attacked you, just like anyone else.
Many of us talk about how they feel they can not be themselves in public. That this is why they feel so good to have a forum such as this to come to, a safe haven, a place where they can be themselves. To be perfectly honest, the only thing different about who we are here is the choice in topics. I'm not saying that you should strike up a conversation with the local pastor about what Lucifer was really like. But I'm saying that just because you think you knew the guy doesn't give anyone the right to attack you. The same goes for all our beliefs.
And while you might fear getting hurt, fear that someone might beat you up, which in and of itself can be a valid fear, you still have to ask yourself. What is it that hurts more, hurts deeper, and takes longer to heal from. Forcing yourself to hide who you are for years out of fear that you might get hurt or being beaten up one night and needing to heal for a couple of weeks. Perhaps you just don't want to be noticed at all, but then one has to ask. If hiding is a part of who you are, then how are you not being who you are by hiding?
Now of course, if you want to stand up and say that you are entirely not human, that your body is merely a container, then you might be hurting your case a little. There's no law that protects angels or demons or elves. There's plenty of laws that protect your right to believe in them and even believe that you are one, but there's no law that protects them. If you were to shed the skin and reveal yourself for what you truly are, then you have to accept that you shed all your legally protected rights and freedoms with said skin. You can not proclaim that you are not human and yet expect to be treated as one.
If you accept that you are a human being now. And try and find a way to do whatever it is that you want to do with this life, then you can have a good one. You can walk this earth, just like the rest of us, and learn something. Experience something. There is so much enjoyment, so much good to be found in this world, even if it's beyond flawed, all you have to do is accept it.
If that's not an option, then there's no one keeping you from leaving.
There are walk-ins, so why don't you just walk-out?
There are other options than sitting in the flesh and feeling trapped.
You decide how imprisoned you are, no one else.
"Those who can't approach discussion with a basic level of intelligence and maturity shouldn't expect to be taken seriously." ~ Qualia Soup