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No Touchy!
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I noticed in the 'Quirks' thread that several people mentioned that they didn't like being touched so I thought we might discuss that at length under a new thread.

So, does being touched bother you due to energy reasons or purely because you dislike the physical contact? And this is more in regards to strangers rather than friends/family members. If others touch your energy or aura or get in your "personal space" does it bother you because you're 'kin or because you're sensitive to energy manipulations around you? Also, does being close to another 'kin call attention to your own energy? And what about phantom limbs? Can you sense when someone bumps into them? If so, how do you usually react?

I'm just curious as to how others perceive the sensation of touch through either energy or physical means. Thanks!

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2008-02-15 14:54
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I can sympathise with not wanting to be touched. Physical contact, of any kind, is just something that disgusts me, mostly. I rarely touch even my relatives or give my folks hugs. It's just...an uncomfortable feeling. Almost like if they touched me, they'd "know" something, how I'm feeling, like the little twitch in my hand at a lie, would tell them. That is most likely due to me being able to read people's body language far too well, and I expect/am afraid everyone can see the same thing in me.

In regards to phantom limbs, I find it unbearable when people walk behind me. My little siblings do it far too often just to "ruffle my feathers," but when it gets bad, they know to stay away. Unfortunately, in crowded places, that is near impossible. Sometimes other phantom limbs bother me when moving too close to something, but it's the wings that get it most. People and doors are just at that level. <!-- s:| --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_neutral.gif" alt=":|" title="Neutral" /><!-- s:| --> That didn't answer the question..

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2008-02-15 16:45
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I used to be all hands off when I was a teenager, I thought touching people and having them touch me was icky and I always felt uncomfortable and selfconscious. But I grew out of it; I call it a phase I went through now, my period of emotional armorment, I was too pricky and rebelious for my own good. I like hugs now and the kiss on the cheek from a stranger, I like human contact in general now. But thinking about it, my brother is still all 'don't touch me', you have to sneak up on him to hug him...in which case he turns into a wet noodle. He's raised his kids like that too- they are the most modest bunch of anklebiters....like won't wear a bathing suit without a full outfit on over it. And if you walk into the house, they scatter like roaches, even the dog. My house, the kids come running to be swept up...so do the dogs come to think of it. heh.

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2008-02-15 16:52
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I think it's an energy thing for me, since some people can touch me and it's comforting, while others can touch me and I start to feel twitchy.

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2008-02-15 17:26
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With me I think it's both an auric and a preference thing, more of the latter. Dragons are generally big, after all, and usually like their space. I'm one that feels crowded in an empty hallway, personally. I just grin and bear it.
2008-02-15 17:32
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Quote:So, does being touched bother you due to energy reasons or purely because you dislike the physical contact?

Actually the only time that I don't like to be touched is when a person's energy is off or feels wrong to me. I use to really not like any physical affection shown to me, but as I matured that disappeared.

Quote:And this is more in regards to strangers rather than friends/family members.

It's more common with strangers, but there are people that I've know for years that I still can't stand to have any closer to me than five feet or so. These type of people I just can't be friends with regardless of how 'nice' they might act towards me.

Quote:If others touch your energy or aura or get in your "personal space" does it bother you because you're 'kin or because you're sensitive to energy manipulations around you?

Unless they are doing something without permission or are one of the "creepy people", I'm okay with it, not sure if it comes from 'kiness or being sensitive to energy in general.

Quote:Also, does being close to another 'kin call attention to your own energy?

Very much so, as do some high energy non-otherkin like my boyfriend.

Quote:And what about phantom limbs? Can you sense when someone bumps into them? If so, how do you usually react?

Sometimes I can feel when people are objects come into contact with them, it's more of a tingling most of the time. Only when I am tired do things like clothing or chairs/car seats seem to be almost painful.

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2008-02-15 17:38
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It all depends on context. I love snuggling with my mate and friends. I need touch when I want reassurance. However, I hate crowds, and get really pissy if someone touches me when I'm not in the mood for touch, or if I don't know them well.
2008-02-15 21:45
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I'm a "touch-me-not". I just don't care for physical or energetic contact, even from my family members. CERTAIN people *coughstormchoirscough* learn this the hard way, but most just get told off. I try not to be rude, but it's bothersome.

I don't know exactly why I don't like it. When someone's in close proximity to me, I do feel their energy, and I do want it off me. However, I also just don't enjoy someone else's skin touching mine most of the time anyways. So it's one part energetic and one part physical.

I also hate crowds, but that's more to do with being self-conscious about my appearance than anything else.
2008-02-15 22:33
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I believe it's purely energy for me. I don't like others to touch me unless I can tell that they're are near, which means no sneak attacks for me. I think even if I wasn't 'kin, I'd be like this. <!-- sSmile --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt=":)" title="Smile" /><!-- sSmile -->

As for phantom limbs... I'm very sensitive to my tail at times. Do not touch my tail. I don't really react in a way to startle anyone, but when my tail is, let's say, crushed in a crowded street (or I sit on it), I'll feel a painful tingle in the area.

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2008-02-16 0:58
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I don't like having my face or hair touched. That doesn't have to do with energy though, I just don't like it.

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2008-02-16 2:20
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