Needing advice on a particular situation . . .
Mods, if this is in the wrong forum, please move it.
Okay, so I am on the staff of another board; and for the most part, the mods and admins have been a pretty close-knit group -- some of my closest friends are there. However, recently there was a huge falling out between myself and one of the other staff members, which got so bad that we are no longer friends. I get the sense that she is forming a faction within the staff against me, and you'll see why in a minute; but that's not the point I'm making.
So today, I noticed a member posting some things that seem to be very strongly hinting at beliefs that would almost certainly get her in trouble -- and she's putting them in the open for anybody to see and interpret, which isn't making her look good. Now, I myself have beliefs that are pretty "out there" by most standards, so I of all people have no right to judge her; but I also don't post my beliefs where the whole world can see them. Even OKP isn't a truly public forum, since one has to register before one sees anything here; so I'm still sticking to my rule of "Only post where it's safe, and where only those you trust can see it" when I post here. I've also told four members of the twelve-member staff of my own forum a few things about what I believe -- but only because I thought they would be receptive, and only because I trusted them to not share my confidences with anyone.
Anyway, I posted in the mod forum that I was a little weirded out by the things this member was leaving in the open, and I wanted to know if I was justified in feeling that way. If I was justified, I was going to follow up on it. Then, the staff member I had a falling out with came back and said, "Well, you believe this and this about yourself, so you have no room to talk."
First of all, her statement about what I believe -- which wasn't 'kin-related, but still -- was incorrect; secondly, it's not her business to post her ideas about what I believe, correct or not, in a forum where the whole staff can see them, since I didn't tell the whole staff and wanted it to remain between myself and the four I told.
But it gets better: one of the other staff members, who is essentially her lackey, came back and said, "What you believe isn't the huge secret you make it out to be," hinting that the whole staff knows about it or at least has an idea of what it's about. That's odd, to say the very least, considering that I told four other staff members, yet now twelve of them have heard something about it. Now I know that someone has been spreading my beliefs around for other people to feed on, which is absolutely wrong and doesn't come close to constituting decent behavior. I mean, what sort of monstrous sense of entitlement do you have to have in order to even have the ability to do that sort of thing, putting aside the ability to justify it?
Anyway, I'm at a loss for what to do. If I confront anyone about it, it'll probably just make the situation worse; and right now, I'm stuck with waiting for other people to come to my defense, which may or may not happen. If the situation gets much worse, I'm seriously considering leaving the staff and the whole forum completely, which I don't want to do. How should I handle this?
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