Losing Headmates

This is a question that I've had for months now, but is it possible for a multiple system to "lose" a headmate? And I don't mean a walk-in, either. I've been losing contact with my system more and more, even thought I know the whole of it has never changed.

But if it is possible to "lose" headmates, then is there a way to get them back, or is it like that are gone for good? Any answers would be better than nothing.

Thanks.

Yes, people can walk out (one of our originals did so this year), and it's also possible to just have communication difficulties. The latter tends to resolve itself in time; we don't know of any ways to speed that up, unfortunately.

-blurry

Both of my former headmates left and walked out of this body. I would like very much to communicate with them again, but I've yet to find any means of doing so. If anyone figures out how to do it, let me know.

But what about a whole headspace (in a sense)worth of headmates? That's my only thing, since we use to be rather vast in numbers, yet now only a few of us have been able to come together and keep the headspace stable. I think some might still be there, but, aw fuck, it's confusing as hell to explain. I do know, though, that things are "falling apart" to an extent with the headmates/headspace, so I am all the more curious.

Ausse Wrote:But what about a whole headspace (in a sense)worth of headmates? That's my only thing, since we use to be rather vast in numbers, yet now only a few of us have been able to come together and keep the headspace stable. I think some might still be there, but, aw fuck, it's confusing as hell to explain. I do know, though, that things are "falling apart" to an extent with the headmates/headspace, so I am all the more curious.

If it's the whole lot who have gone - or most of them - then maybe it would be more useful to think of yourself as leaving them, rather than them as leaving you?

Sadly, that does make more sense. But how often does it happen though, that people lose headmates, or vice versa?

In any case, thank you, Archer, that does seem to help quell some of the conundrum in my own mind.

Ausse Wrote:Sadly, that does make more sense. But how often does it happen though, that people lose headmates, or vice versa?

Well, I've certainly had temporary periods of disconnection from my other half. For all I know there have been more who I've lost as well - but if I have, and if they're gone, I don't know how aware I'd be of it. (Potentially the person would leave and also the memories of that person.)

Is it possible for one of the spirits/head mates to be destroyed?

Natani Wrote:Is it possible for one of the spirits/head mates to be destroyed?

Sure, the same as headmates can integrate into each other or simply opt to leave the system. Why do you ask?

I'm missing the mage in my system leaving a warrior type of soul in the form of a black wolf kynar a kitsune and my self being the hunter type I only remember something happening in the spirit world and him dissapating and screaming bloody murder....
I wanted to make sure that a spirit could be more or less broken down into energy and possibly absorbed into another or what ever happoned.

~Lyra