Looking in

If something like this has been posted before I apologize. I did look but there is always the chance i didn't look in the right places. But anyway...

When posting about my dragon form part of what i said is this:

Quote:While I sort of have a name for my dragon side I don't tend to use it because at this point I am unable to determine if the name is my name or the name or my dragon totem spirit's name. Most of the time he is so close to me and around so much I have trouble really distinguishing him from myself. The reason I believe him to be there at all is when I showed a representation of him to a friend (who, while not a dragon, is a dragon priestess) her reaction was "Not him again!"

I have since found out from my friend that the dragon spirit that follows her, Talisar, is not the dragon I've seen in myself. By her giving me a description of Talisar i was able to see that he was indeed a different dragon. Having that clarified I'm still at a bit of a loss to find out more about my dragon side. I was wondering if anyone had anything to impart about finding out more about ones kin side. I know it should be as easy as looking in but alas focus has always been a problem of mine.

I would say this -- maybe you're so busy looking where you think it is that you're missing the telltale signs that's already being given to you.

A good analogy is one of those images that are very blurry -- you won't see the "picture" until you unfocus your eyes. You can look in all the corners, diagram all of the lines, but you won't see it until you stop looking for it. Chances are you will find out when it becomes worth knowing and you will just frustrate yourself by searching needlessly in the meantime.

But this is simply my own way (and half the time, I don't even follow it). It may not do anything for you at all.

In my exprience and what I've learned is that your inner dragon is you, not something entirely so I don't think you would be following your friend around all the time.

My kin side has no name and never will because my kin side is me.


(Don't quote me, I may be wrong but I can only go off of what I've been told)

--sarah

Shangrila Wrote:In my exprience and what I've learned is that your inner dragon is you, not something entirely so I don't think you would be following your friend around all the time.

I completely agree here, which is why it confused me so when she looked at the figure of my dragon form i had made and said "not you again" It made me think what i saw was a totem dragon and not my form but i am now certain what i saw is my form and it just looks like the totem that follows her around.

Marrik Wrote:I would say this -- maybe you're so busy looking where you think it is that you're missing the telltale signs that's already being given to you.

A good analogy is one of those images that are very blurry -- you won't see the "picture" until you unfocus your eyes. You can look in all the corners, diagram all of the lines, but you won't see it until you stop looking for it. Chances are you will find out when it becomes worth knowing and you will just frustrate yourself by searching needlessly in the meantime.

This is definitely a good point and while i haven't really actively looked its possible that my desire to find it clouds some of it i already have right in front of me.

Shangrila Wrote:My kin side has no name and never will because my kin side is me.

I have a tendency to name the different aspects of my personality as a kind of categorization. However, this mostly stems from my writing where i would take an aspect of my personality and turn it into a character. For instance, I have a character who started as a representation of my bravado and his personality started as how i tend to express my false courage and then he grows into something unique. ...hmmm, I wonder if this could be used in therapy...take an aspect of yourself you think needs work turn it into a fictional character and then use writing to have them grow and change and then incorporate how they grew back into yourself...anyway...I digress.

Stig Wrote:

Shangrila Wrote:In my exprience and what I've learned is that your inner dragon is you, not something entirely so I don't think you would be following your friend around all the time.

I completely agree here, which is why it confused me so when she looked at the figure of my dragon form i had made and said "not you again" It made me think what i saw was a totem dragon and not my form but i am now certain what i saw is my form and it just looks like the totem that follows her around.

Shangrila Wrote:My kin side has no name and never will because my kin side is me.

I have a tendency to name the different aspects of my personality as a kind of categorization. However, this mostly stems from my writing where i would take an aspect of my personality and turn it into a character. For instance, I have a character who started as a representation of my bravado and his personality started as how i tend to express my false courage and then he grows into something unique. ...hmmm, I wonder if this could be used in therapy...take an aspect of yourself you think needs work turn it into a fictional character and then use writing to have them grow and change and then incorporate how they grew back into yourself...anyway...I digress.

Ok, makes sense now. <!-- s --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt=":)" title="Smile" /><!-- s --> Thanks for clarifying--now other people can see what you mean, too. I think it may be used in therapy, but I wouldn't know for certain.

--Sarah

Shangrila Wrote:

Stig Wrote:

Shangrila Wrote:My kin side has no name and never will because my kin side is me.

I have a tendency to name the different aspects of my personality as a kind of categorization. However, this mostly stems from my writing where i would take an aspect of my personality and turn it into a character. For instance, I have a character who started as a representation of my bravado and his personality started as how i tend to express my false courage and then he grows into something unique. ...hmmm, I wonder if this could be used in therapy...take an aspect of yourself you think needs work turn it into a fictional character and then use writing to have them grow and change and then incorporate how they grew back into yourself...anyway...I digress.

Ok, makes sense now. <!-- s --><img src="{SMILIES_PATH}/icon_e_smile.gif" alt=":)" title="Smile" /><!-- s --> Thanks for clarifying--now other people can see what you mean, too. I think it may be used in therapy, but I wouldn't know for certain.

--Sarah

It sounds similar to Internal Family Systems Therapy, which applies the concepts of family therapy to the contents of a single body. There's a book by the same name on the subject, by a therapist who mostly deals with eating disorders; we've read it and thought it was pretty good. It does assume that each body has a core Self, but it's easy enough to set that idea to the side if you don't agree.

-Svanni