A month or so ago, I came out to my boyfriend of (at the time) 9 months. It went incredibly well. Really. Infact, I found out that he had always felt some odd energy experiences, and had several of the kinds of therian-type shifts himself. At first, he said he wanted to explore all the possibilities that he now knew existed, mostly info on demons and therians...but after a few days, he said he had seen a show on tv about bears, and it just clicked. He feels very distinct phantom paws. But after he 'discovered' this, he decided he no longer needed to do any research. I have sent him alot of sources and articles, but he doesnt feel the need to read them or do some deep research and soul-searching to confirm what he believes. He says that hes still the same person he was yesterday and theres no reason to confirm anything. He just doesn't feel the pressure to ever find out for sure. In my oppinion, most people don't just "know" their theriotype (or kintype)...it takes research on the animal and a thorough understanding of that creature's true behaviors. He doesn't claim to be absolutely sure of what he is...he does admit that hes just settling with a guess, but it still bothers me when he makes comments about himself being a bear. What do I do? How can you convince someone of the good reasons for completely knowing themself? All I can offer is that for me, it helped me explain to myself why I am the way I am. Help?
And dont get me wrong...I'm thankful that he accepted my beliefs and entertained the idea himself. But I've never dealt with someone who is ok with the notion that there -might- be something nonhuman in their soul, but eh, not a big deal.
EDIT: Not to mention, hes planning on converting to Judaism soon. This is something he should explore, as it may be a big part of him, and may change his beliefs. UGH!