Gender

For those of you who determined your `kintype's gender, how did you go about it?

I've just been wondering.. I want to know mine. ._.

I mainly mean physical sex, but gender identity is okay too.

Mine don't have any. Physical sex is a product of sexual reproduction, which is not universal.

I don't actually recall anything that would determine if I were male or female. But I do have some wolf-ish mating/parenting instincts that I don't think I'd have if I hadn't lived at least one life female. If I hadnt...all Id have would be the human woman instincts, I assume.

Archer Wrote:Mine don't have any. Physical sex is a product of sexual reproduction, which is not universal.

QFA

"gender" is in the head, "sex" is in the flesh..
I've always seen myself as fairly masculin but it took a whole lot of self-examination to realize just how "male" I was and realize that the answer is... both.

I remember living my first lifetime as a female, so there's that. But the more that I think about it, the more I think I've always been female. I don't have a single memory of being male, nor do I really feel male. In fact, half the time, male-ness is so foreign to me that I boggle at it's expression.

The ideas of "maleness" and "femaleness" as expressed more often mean nothing more than "how the culture I was raised in taught me what a good girl or boy should be like" and for the most part I can't get my head round them at all.

Archer Wrote:The ideas of "maleness" and "femaleness" as expressed more often mean nothing more than "how the culture I was raised in taught me what a good girl or boy should be like" and for the most part I can't get my head round them at all.

I don't think that that's necessarily true of me. I consider myself female- and a warrior, which isn't exactly "good girl" material. As for how I know- I just do. I think it's more in the kind of energy that's emitted. I consider males to have bulkier energy (that makes any sense) and females... I don't know how to explain it. Smooth? Controlled? Anyways, they're different in a way.

-Kraela

I've somehow just... always known. The wolf-baboon-cat-thingy lifetime was definitely male. The last Shinoar lifetime I remember, decidedly female. I know for certain that mine was the gender that was going to bear the offspring, despite the fact that shinoar "feminine" is western culture "masculine", ie, aggressive, competitive, dominant, etc. This is because we were the larger, more muscular gender, and more aggressive by nature. I still have a tendency to treat males as needing protecting, and expect to be deferred to in certain situations, which leads to all kinds of awkward.

Deros Wrote:

Archer Wrote:The ideas of "maleness" and "femaleness" as expressed more often mean nothing more than "how the culture I was raised in taught me what a good girl or boy should be like" and for the most part I can't get my head round them at all.

I don't think that that's necessarily true of me. I consider myself female- and a warrior, which isn't exactly "good girl" material. As for how I know- I just do. I think it's more in the kind of energy that's emitted. I consider males to have bulkier energy (that makes any sense) and females... I don't know how to explain it. Smooth? Controlled? Anyways, they're different in a way.

So what it is you actually consider to be gender traits? Bulkiness of energy? Smoothness? Controlled? I'm not sure what any of that has to do with maleness or femaleness and (to use one example) given that people of either gender are capable of being out of control psychos who rant and whine and rage and inflict their emotions on others, I abslutely can't see how controlled-ness has anything to do with it.