Re: Folk from your past?
I've encountered several, various different reactions.
In general, I get a mild "panic" from some people actually. Not panic because I'm afraid of them, or the past, or whatever. As folks have probably picked up, I try to be methodical and as scientific as I can with a lot of the occult stuff. So when I meet someone I recognize, I tend to freeze up, part of me wants to just grab them and say "Do you remember being in X during YTimeframe?" but I know that if they said yes, I'd never be able to trust it against a created memory, so I hold back. I take time so I can work out my side as much as I can without their interference. If I think I know someone, I take the time to try to narrow down where/when, then to isolate whatever memories of them as I can. As always, these have to get written down, because no matter how good your memory is, your brain is out to deceive you. With info written down and sorted out, then I can interact with the person, without fear of being coloured, then it is just a matter of withholding information from them until I have reason to do otherwise. The panic, is also in part because I can't root out the sceptic in me who would want nothing more than to be able to disprove my mythology so I could live without it. Don't get me wrong, I love who I am, and the memories of what I've been through, but my life would be easier if it was all a dream.
One of my best friends and I go a ways back, when I first met him, and got a glimpse of it, I distanced myself from him for eight months, no emails, no contact, nothing. Then when we did start talking again it still took another two years for anything to come out.
How stuff works out varies from person to person. Some people drive home the idea that people change, one of my best friends (called my best frienemy) and I had such a troubled past, that we joke really we just took alternating turns murdering each other, and I'm now close with other people who had my worst interest at heart for various lives. Then again, I'm also now not talking to some people who were closest to me in the past because who we are now is too much at odds to be peaceful with each other. Some people don't change, not always a bad thing, but can be a problem if not handled right.
I agree with Meirya, don't date people you've been with in the past* too much baggage. You can drag up old issues, fall into the wrong patterns, or old patterns. With the only person from my past that I dated, the problem was one of us kept the old pattern of relationship, the other one was trying to build something new. Didn't match.
*I won't say it never works, but it's a tricky thing to manoeuvre.
When we first begin all things simply are.
As we grow all things are external.
As we learn all things are internal.
As we understand all things are not.
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