First off, running on all fours doesn't make you a wolf...and honestly dreams are, 99% of the time, simply symbolic as they are how your subconscious mind works through the issues in your present life. So if you're thinking about therians and discussing it with your girlfriend, it really isn't shocking that you're dreaming about it in some way.
When you say you're experiencing phantom limbs in your hands, could you give us some more detail?
Finally, when it all boils down to it, no one except yourself can figure out if you're otherkin or not, let alone what variety. It's something only you can figure out. We can give you ideas and feedback, but we can't just tell you...and for that matter, no one is 100% sure of their beliefs because there really is no way to definitively prove these things. One thing is certain, however, whether you're a therian or not, it is nothing to fear. If you are, it's who you are, it's a part of you....and just be happy it isn't Hollywood where you'd turn into some animal every time a full moon rolls around <!-- s

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*puts her mod hat on* While this post could I guess technically be moved to the intros section, since it's a specific question regarding therians, I'll keep it here. That means that it would be spiffy if you'd post an introduction down in the intros section so we can properly welcome you and get to know you apart from your "situation". <!-- s

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